Here we go again!

27 Jan

Its been a while…almost 2 years. And now that mom is feeling pretty well, its my dad’s turn. He was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last fall. It has affected his lungs as well as his joints. In a few short months he went from hardworking farmer to a man who moves around the house carefully dragging an oxygen hose. And as hard as it is to watch, its painful to love.

The Rest

24 Mar

I can’t believe how tired I am. I go back to work on Monday and I am looking forward to it. But some down-time would be great. Yesterday was a busy day. It was our last visit to the hospital. Mom had blood work at 7:00am, a CT scan at 7:30, breakfast and then Physio at 10:00. I tried to get the running  around done while she was doing part of her physio so I got my exercise, running back to the parking garage, to the parking office (the other side of the hospital from the garage), up to physio, back to the parking office, to the pharmacy and then back to physio. Crazy! Then learn all Mom’s exercises for home with her. Afterwards we started saying our good-byes. There was some wonderful people in the transplant program, friends we had made over the last six weeks. Only those who have gone through this process can understand just how easily friendships are made as you cheer each other on.

After we left the hospital, we headed back to the apartment to pack up. It is scary how much stuff we accumulated in the last month! Of course it had snowed overnight over 5 inches so packing things out to my Escape was a little more interesting. I managed to fit everything in, including my mom’s chair! I cleaned, vacumned and tidied up. By the time we were ready to leave, I wanted a nap!

I will almost, but not quite, miss these places. The hospital was a busy, but not impersonal place full of caring people. The little apartment was our respite even when it started to feel closed in. It was an experience that we didn’t really expect but one I won’t ever forget.

The Home Stretch

22 Mar

We got permission yesterday from the doctors and the transplant team to go home at the end of the week! This has been a 6 week journey to this point and we are down to the home stretch. And its a good thing!

I am a fairly solitary person. To get some alone time, I have been staying up late. This doesn’t work all that well as I am a morning person and don’t sleep past 6 am! As well most of Mom’s appointments are early so we head out at 6:30!  Yesterday, I actually left Mom alone at the apartment and went and visited a friend. I played music as loud as I wanted in the car!

Even Mom remarked today that its a good thing that we’re going home as we are getting on each other’s nerves!

I think this is a part of caregiving that doesn’t get enough attention. I love my mom so very much, but being with her 24-7 is another thing!

Wading

21 Mar

Mom is learning a new skill. She is a writer, but for years she has written on an old typewriter. True, it was electric, but still a typewriter! Her last book was done on their desk-top computer with a lot of coaching. She did pretty well. But the desk-top is at home and we are stuck in the city. My lap-top is old and plagued with viruses. I didn’t want to put Mom’s book onto it, to lose the changes if it crashed!

So Mom decided to purchase her own. With some long distance advice from a techie friend, we bought a small laptop. I installed the office program and showed Mom how to insert the “stick”. And yes, even that was an adventure! Yes, Mom, it can go in any of those holes, No, Mom, only the one way! Of course, she decided she needed to do this while I was cooking supper, which did get a little well done! Hey, didn’t I go through this stuff about 15 years ago with my kids!?

She is fine with the keyboarding part. (Mom, don’t hit the keys so hard!) Now showing her how it scrolls down, to copy and paste….oh, I think we will leave that till I’m cooking supper tomorrow!

Wading

21 Mar

Mom is learning a new skill. She is a writer, but for years she has written on an old typewriter. True, it was electric, but still a typewriter! Her last book was done on their desk-top computer with a lot of coaching. She did pretty well. But the desk-top is at home and we are stuck in the city. My lap-top is old and plagued with viruses. I didn’t want to put Mom’s book onto it, to lose the changes if it crashed!

So Mom decided to purchase her own. With some long distance advice from a techie friend, we bought a small laptop. I installed the office program and showed Mom how to insert the “stick”. And yes, even that was an adventure! Yes, Mom, it can go in any of those holes, No, Mom, only the one way! Of course, she decided she needed to do this while I was cooking supper, which did get a little well done! Hey, didn’t I go through this stuff about 15 years ago with my kids!?

She is fine with the keyboarding part. (Mom, don’t hit the keys so hard!) Now showing her how it scrolls down, to copy and paste….oh, I think we will leave that till I’m cooking supper tomorrow!

Wading

21 Mar

Mom is learning a new skill. She is a writer, but for years she has written on an old typewriter. True, it was electric, but still a typewriter! Her last book was done on their desk-top computer with a lot of coaching. She did pretty well. But the desk-top is at home and we are stuck in the city. My lap-top is old and plagued with viruses. I didn’t want to put Mom’s book onto it, to lose the changes if it crashed!

So Mom decided to purchase her own. With some long distance advice from a techie friend, we bought a small laptop. I installed the office program and showed Mom how to insert the “stick”. And yes, even that was an adventure! Yes, Mom, it can go in any of those holes, No, Mom, only the one way! Of course, she decided she needed to do this while I was cooking supper, which did get a little well done! Hey, didn’t I go through this stuff about 15 years ago with my kids!?

She is fine with the keyboarding part. (Mom, don’t hit the keys so hard!) Now showing her how it scrolls down, to copy and paste….oh, I think we will leave that till I’m cooking supper tomorrow!

Wading

21 Mar

Mom is learning a new skill. She is a writer, but for years she has written on an old typewriter. True, it was electric, but still a typewriter! Her last book was done on their desk-top computer with a lot of coaching. She did pretty well. But the desk-top is at home and we are stuck in the city. My lap-top is old and plagued with viruses. I didn’t want to put Mom’s book onto it, to lose the changes if it crashed!

So Mom decided to purchase her own. With some long distance advice from a techie friend, we bought a small laptop. I installed the office program and showed Mom how to insert the “stick”. And yes, even that was an adventure! Yes, Mom, it can go in any of those holes, No, Mom, only the one way! Of course, she decided she needed to do this while I was cooking supper, which did get a little well done! Hey, didn’t I go through this stuff about 15 years ago with my kids!?

She is fine with the keyboarding part. (Mom, don’t hit the keys so hard!) Now showing her how it scrolls down, to copy and paste….oh, I think we will leave that till I’m cooking supper tomorrow!